Letting Go of Your Ex or Anyone Who Has Wronged You
We really feel anger when we perceive an injustice, when our boundaries have actually been violated, and/or when we really feel “mistreated” by one more individual. Occasionally this anger can persist for several years past the original occasion. It can even persist after the annoying person dies!
The silver lining of rage is that it gets us in contact with our power facility to ensure that we can act to stand up for ourselves or someone else. This can be excellent and also crucial when ideal.
However, there are times when an old temper is offering no helpful function; there is no activity to be taken. Instead, it is only triggering us troubles by weighing us down, creating anxiety and also developing some kind of dis-ease within us. As soon as an old rage is identified as the origin of some trouble that we are having, it is normally easily relieved by tapping on the temper that we have towards the person. It typically helps to be very details regarding the root cause of the rage when touching. As an example, as opposed to stating:
Even though I rage at my ex-wife …
It is better to say something details, like:
Despite the fact that I am furious at my ex-wife for unfaithful on me …
It can also assist to pretend that the person is being in front of you as well as express all your temper feelings directly to the individual while tapping.
After a couple of rounds of touching, the temper will certainly recede and also the existing trouble will clean up. At the very least, this is the usual circumstance. In some cases, however, it does not exercise this way.
When Anger Will Not Let Go I had a series of three clients some time back where touching on their temper didn’t initially aid much whatsoever. In each instance, the violation was a bad one that had actually happened a long time ago. There was absolutely nothing to be done and even stated to the offending individual, and also in one instance the individual was dead. Each of these clients were aware that the angering person was not being affected in any way by their anger and that they were the only ones enduring. However, touching was not alleviating their temper.
When this occurred with the very first customer, we were initially stuck for a while, but then I had a flash of intuition. I asked my customer whether she really felt that letting go of her rage would imply that the other individual would somehow “escape” what he did? A light bulb went off and also she highly concurred. It appeared that she subconsciously felt that her temper was, in a cosmic justice sort of way, maintaining the other individual “accountable” of what he did. She was afraid that if she released her rage, it would certainly mean that it “really did not matter” what he did to her and he would “escape it” without any effects. Her rage was the only kind of “punishment” that he was getting. The predicament was that the only person in fact being impacted by her anger was her, yet releasing her anger seemed like it would be to his benefit.
So, we touched on:
Although he’ll get away with what he did without my anger … Even though he won’t be answerable without my rage … Despite the fact that it won’t matter what he did to me without my anger …
Later in the touching we consisted of verifying phrases like,
I let go of her to the Universe She goes through her own karma I select peace for myself
After several rounds of this sort of touching, my customer’s rage was gone, as well as she really felt fantastic relief and tranquility around the problem.
After encountering this same scenario with the following two clients in a row, I really felt that this understanding might be useful to others. So, if you find yourself having a difficult time relieving your rage with tapping, look deeper within to see if issues of “planetary justice” are getting in your method.
EFT for Releasing Stuck Anger (with an Ex or Anyone Who Has Wronged You)
We feel anger when we perceive an injustice, when our boundaries have been violated, and/or when we feel “wronged” by another person. Sometimes this anger can persist for many years past the original event. It can even persist after the offending person dies!
The positive side of anger is that it gets us in touch with our power center so that we can take action to stand up for ourselves or someone else. This can be very good and important when appropriate.
However, there are times when an old anger is serving no useful purpose; there is no action to be taken. Instead, it is only causing us problems by weighing us down, causing stress and creating some kind of dis-ease within us. Once an old anger is identified as the root cause of some problem that we are having, it is usually readily relieved by tapping on the anger that we have towards the person. It typically helps to be very specific about the cause of the anger when tapping. For instance, rather than saying:
Even though I am furious at my ex-wife…
It is better to say something specific, like:
Even though I am furious at my ex-wife for cheating on me…
It can also help to pretend that the person is sitting in front of you and express all your anger feelings directly to the person while tapping.
After a few rounds of tapping, the anger will drain away and the current problem will clear up. At least, this is the usual situation. Sometimes, however, it doesn’t work out that way.
When Anger Won’t Let Go
I had a series of three clients some time back where tapping on their anger didn’t initially help much at all. In each case, the offense was a bad one that had happened a very long time ago. There was nothing to be done or even said to the offending person, and in one case the person was dead. Each of these clients were aware that the offending person was not being affected at all by their anger and that they were the only ones suffering. However, tapping was not relieving their anger.
When this happened with the first client, we were initially stuck for a while, but then I had a flash of intuition. I asked my client whether she felt that letting go of her anger would mean that the other person would somehow “get away with” what he did? A light bulb went off and she strongly agreed. It came out that she subconsciously felt that her anger was, in a cosmic justice sort of way, keeping the other person “accountable” for what he did. She was afraid that if she let go of her anger, it would mean that it “didn’t matter” what he did to her and he would “get away with it” without any consequences. Her anger was the only form of “punishment” that he was receiving. The dilemma was that the only person actually being affected by her anger was her, but letting go of her anger felt like it would be to his benefit.
So, we tapped on:
Even though he’ll get away with what he did without my anger… Even though he won’t be accountable without my anger… Even though it won’t matter what he did to me without my anger…
Later in the tapping we included affirming phrases like,
I release him to the Universe He is subject to his own karma I choose peace for myself
After several rounds of this kind of tapping, my client’s anger was gone, and she felt great relief and peace around the issue.
After encountering this same situation with the next two clients in a row, I felt that this insight might be helpful to others. So, if you find yourself having a hard time relieving your anger through tapping, look deeper within to see if issues of “cosmic justice” are getting in your way.
Remove the 3 Key Barriers Keeping You Stuck and Single
Imagine Having the Amazing Love You’ve Dreamed Of…
Imagine being able to clear all obstacles to finding your soulmate and having a wonderful, healthy, love-filled relationship!
This article is your road map to finding the love of your life. We are going to dive deep into the true, hidden blocks that have been keeping you from your soulmate. You are going to end up with amazing a-ha moments that will radically change your whole perspective on your search for love…
Who Am I to Be Helping You?
Before discussing your potential blocks to finding love, let me start by telling you a bit about myself.
For over 23 years, I have helped smart, loving people attract the spine-tingling and lasting love they longed for, even when they thought it wasn’t possible for them.
I have helped thousands of people find lasting love and have better relationships through one-on-one Soulmate Attracting Mentoring, as well as offering transformational programs, including the Single 2 Soulmate Breakthrough Program, the Self Love 2 Soul Mate program, and the Fearless Dating! program.
Also, I had my own many year journey to find love, so I know what it’s like to struggle, feel stuck, and even feel despair. I worked through my blocks so that I was able to have my happy ending and find the love of my life
I am happily married to a wonderful woman named Laura, and we have a love-filled, growthful, exciting relationship. I found the partner of my dreams, and it’s my passion to help you find yours in the shortest time possible!
Lesson 1 – The Inside Story: Why You Haven’t Found your Soulmate Yet
How long have you been looking for the love of your life? You know other people who have found their love, so why haven’t you? Is this some cruel stroke of fate, or is there an explanation for your troubles?
The good news is that there is an explanation for why you haven’t found your special Love yet, and it’s not your fault.
The reasons may seem a bit challenging at first, but the great news is that I will be sharing with you powerful and effective methods for overcoming all obstacles to finding your soulmate.
Let’s jump right in…
There are three key barriers to finding the love of your life:
You are powerfully, subconsciously attracted to the wrong people.
You have emotional blocks to being with the right person.
You are not aligned with bringing your soulmate into your life.
One or more of these types of barriers may be the source of the problem. Often, it’s some of all three.
Being Powerfully, Subconsciously Attracted to the Wrong People
If you are attracted to the wrong people, then all of your time and energy will be wasted in painful, dead-end relationships.
This unhappy situation will obviously make it hard to find and be with your soulmate. So, what causes you to be attracted to the wrong people in the first place?
It Starts with Your Parents’ Traits…
As you grow up, you unconsciously form an image of your future partner based on the strongest traits of your parents, both good and bad. You will then be subconsciously attracted to people with similar traits.
This is not a problem for the good traits, but it can be a BIG problem for the bad ones!
For instance, let’s say that your father had a number of good traits, including intelligence, strength, humor and so on. However, he tended to be emotionally distant and unavailable.
A woman who grew up in this environment would tend to find intelligent, strong, humorous, and emotionally unavailable men the sexiest men on the planet! It’s all good except for that one fatal flaw. Sound familiar?
Similarly, if a man grew up with a warm, loving and giving mother who also happened to be insecure and needy, what kind of women might he be drawn to?
It is important to note that you are not limited to being attracted to the traits of the parent of the opposite sex.
Your subconscious image can be a combination of either or both parents, and we tend to be attracted to the negative trait(s) that we found most difficult or painful. Also, all of this applies whether you are straight or gay.
Finding Love Exercise — Your Parents’ Negative TraitsThink about your parents’ worst negative traits. In fact, write them down.When you have the list of negative traits from both parents, see if there is any commonality with your past significant relationships. You may be surprised (even horrified).
As long as you are strongly attracted to people with the negative traits of your parents, your relationships will be unsatisfying and unhappy, if not painful and doomed (or even traumatic).
Whew, that is a heavy statement, but you may already be having this exact experience. I was having a series of painful, doomed relationships until I was finally able to do something about it.
The good news is: I have a solution. Even if you’ve been struggling to find lasting love and intimacy for years, there’s a very good chance this article will help you to find a warm, caring and passionate mate to share your life with.
I would now like to share “Susan’s” story with you and how she broke free from her unhappy pattern of being attracted to the wrong men.
So far, we’ve talked about how common it is for us to be attracted to the wrong people with the worst negative traits of our parents.
Let me tell you about a woman who struggled her entire life to find a good man she could love and who would love her back. We’ll call her “Susan.”
It All Started When Susan Was a Child
“Mom was great, but she was stretched pretty thin” Susan told me. “She had a full-time job, took care of the house, both kids, and my father. I always felt that she loved me, but she didn’t have a lot of time for me.
“I really admired my Dad. He was a professor and worked very hard. On weeknights, he usually came home late and tired. He would first want to relax, read the paper and watch the news. Then he would hole up in his office and work on writing his articles. It was Mom who put us to bed.
“On weekends, he would sometimes play in the backyard with us. I remember him picking me up and swinging me around while I giggled and screamed. He would joke around and act silly and make us laugh.
“I loved those moments, but they were so short and infrequent. He had so many other interests.
“Often when I was little I would ask my Daddy to come play with me, but he would usually say ‘Not now, honey. Maybe later.’
I loved my father so much, but I always longed to have more of his love and attention.”
One Painful Disappointment After Another
Susan had a very frustrating love life. “I would meet these men who were smart, funny and playful, but I always felt like I came in second (or third or fourth!) to my boyfriends’ other interests” she told me.
“The men I got involved with never wanted to be with me as much as I wanted to be with them. I always felt so unloved!”
Along Came Robert
After many heartbreaking relationships, she finally met a very different kind of man. We’ll call him “Robert.”
“When we first started dating, we would go on these incredibly romantic walks in the woods, holding hands like teenagers” she told me. “I would pack a picnic lunch, and we would fall asleep under a huge oak tree.
“Robert had everything I was looking for in a man. He was smart, funny, playful, and my heart melted just to look at him.
“But what I loved most about Robert was how much he wanted to be with me and how romantic and loving he was! Our relationship felt magical, and I couldn’t believe how lucky I was to be with a guy like him!”
Susan and Robert got together several times a week and would often go on romantic getaways on weekends. After being together several months, Susan felt like she had finally found the man of her dreams.
And Then Something Changed…
One Friday Susan excitedly called Robert to plan a fun adventure together. “How about we take a trip to Martha’s Vinyard this weekend? It would be so yummy to stay at a B&B, ride our bicycles around the island, and visit the quaint shops.”
“I really wish I could, but my top client dropped a bomb on me today, and I’m going to have to spend most of the weekend trying to get his work done for Monday. Maybe we could go to Martha’s Vinyard next weekend?”
Susan got very hurt and accused Robert, “Your work is more important than me!”
Robert felt very bad about this and bent over backwards to reassure Susan that, of course, he loved her more than his work.
After a half hour of reassurances, kisses and tears, Susan felt better, but Robert was left feeling uncomfortable. Susan hadn’t been very understanding of his work situation, and he felt unfairly accused.
Robert’s feelings of discomfort faded over the next few days but still lingered in the background. When they got together, he seemed just a bit distracted and not quite as affectionate as before.
Susan started feeling more and more anxious. “After a while I just started snapping at him for no reason.” Susan said. “I couldn’t seem to stop myself, and things got worse and worse.”
As time went on Robert became less available for weekend adventures together, and he seemed more and more reserved and distant.
“I don’t know what happened. In the beginning, things were so perfect, and then Robert started acting just like all of my past boyfriends!” Susan sobbed. “I can’t believe that I’m back in the same place again! Please help!”
So, What Became of Susan and Robert?
What happened to Susan and Robert’s wonderful relationship? Things started out so well in the beginning, but now they seem to be on a dangerous downward slide.
Were Susan and Robert able to pull things back together?
The majority of us experience difficulty in truly receiving love from other people deeply into our hearts. For many of us it may be difficult to receive any positive emotions from other people.
For instance, think about when someone gives you a compliment… Does the compliment touch your heart and make you feel warm inside? Or do you get uncomfortable and dismiss the compliment in some way?
We may verbally object to the compliment, minimize it, or mechanically say “thank you” without really taking in and feeling the compliment. Either way, we have not received the positive energy from the other person. Sadly, this kind of thing happens in many ways in our lives.
A more dramatic example comes from my weekly therapy group. We sometimes close the group with an “appreciation circle.” We take turns hearing things that the other group members appreciate about us. The goal is simply to receive and take in the positive energy.
Most group members experience some difficulty in really taking in the appreciative statements from the other members. Some group members even say that they experience so much discomfort that they “hate” the appreciation circle!
On the surface, this seems so illogical. What could possibly be bad or painful about hearing things that people like or appreciate about us? One would think that hearing appreciations would just be a good thing, giving us pleasure. However, that is clearly not everyone’s experience. Some people have even had the confusing experience of breaking down crying when someone says something nice to them. Why would hearing something nice cause us to cry?
Finally, the most dramatic example is that many people find that they have a hard time fully taking in the love that they receive from their friends and loved ones. There seems to be some kind of wall or barrier to receiving the love.
The Downside of Not Being Able to Receive Love
There are a number of negative outcomes from not being able to take in positive energy from other people. First of all, we are missing the pleasure and nourishment that we could be receiving from the other person. Receiving and taking in positive feelings (energy) from others feels great and literally feeds us and recharges our batteries.
Also, the other person is missing out on the pleasure of being received. It is very satisfying when a person wholeheartedly receives something that we give. There is a sense of completion and wholeness and connectedness. The receiver gives back in the receiving! On the other hand, there is a feeling of disappointment and sadness when our “gift” is not received. We can even feel rejected in that case.
The ultimate outcome of not receiving and taking in positive energy from others is a feeling of disconnection, distance and isolation in our relationships. This is particularly poignant when the positive emotion that we are having a hard time receiving is the other person’s love.
So, what causes this difficultly in receiving positive emotions and energy from other people and how can we heal it? There can be a number of possible sources, but we will focus on a few of the more common ones based on the previous examples. Ultimately, all sources of the difficulty in taking in positive feelings from others have at their root the avoidance of some form of underlying pain.
Negative Self Beliefs
Most of us have some negative beliefs about ourselves based on childhood experiences. The negative self-belief can be fairly narrow and specific, such as “I am stupid,” or more global, such as “I am unworthy of love or I am bad.”
When the outside world presents us with a positive message or experience that is in direct contradiction to one of our negative self-beliefs (e.g. a compliment or appreciation or expression of love), we face an internal dilemma. We cannot take in something that does not match what we believe about ourselves. Therefore, we will either retain the negative self-belief and discard the positive message, or we will have to shift the negative self-belief in order to take in the positive message. As you can imagine, the second option is not easy, so we usually end up discarding the positive message or not taking it in fully.
Without the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), shifting a negative self-belief is usually very hard. The belief has been entrenched within us since childhood due to receiving the negative message about ourselves many times growing up. We may have received that message explicitly (e.g., “You’re stupid!”) or implicitly through the way that we were treated. Fundamentally, those negative messages represent an unloving betrayal by our caregivers, and there is a lot of stored up pain associated with them.
In fact, the stored up pain associated with the negative messages helps explain the confusing phenomenon of sometimes crying when we hear something good about ourselves. There are times, when we feel sufficiently safe and trusting, where the positive feeling is able to get through despite our negative self-belief. When this happens, it opens our hearts, and the stored up pain associated with the experiences leading to the negative self-belief starts to come up and get released through crying.
There is a form of peer counseling, called Reevaluation Co-counseling, that makes use of this phenomenon as its main healing technique. It works by uncovering the negative self-belief and then having the client say or do something that strongly, positively contradicts the self-belief. This leads to a release of the stored up pain through crying or expressing anger, fear, shame, and so on. The expectation is that if the client lets out these feelings long enough, all of the stored up pain will drain out and the negative self-belief will shift and be healed.
If a person doesn’t understand all of this, then receiving positive messages can sometimes be uncomfortable and scary. The person can feel the crying coming and the underlying pain rising and may want no part of that. She or he does not realize that this is actually a healing process and will instead try to block it out. If you are with a friend who starts to cry when you say something good to him or her, just reassure the person that this is a good thing and encourage her/him to keep crying. This goes for yourself as well.
Fortunately, EFT can be used very effectively to heal negative self-beliefs so that one can more easily take in positive energy from others. You can apply EFT in a number of different ways in this situation. The simplest and most straightforward way to apply EFT is to tap on the negative self-belief directly.
For instance, if the negative self-belief is “I am stupid,” you would start be assessing on a 0 to 10 scale how true that statement “feels” in your gut, where 0 is completely false and 10 is completely true. Presumably, this would be a high number. Next, you would use as your set-up:
“Even though I am stupid, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.”
You would then tap on “I am stupid” at each point. Gradually, the negative self-belief may feel less true. In that case, keep tapping until the feeling of the truth of the statement goes down to a 0.
If tapping directly on the negative self-belief isn’t sufficient in itself to clear it, you will need to tap on the original painful memories of receiving the message that you were stupid. Once you have cleared those, you can finish up by tapping on the belief itself (or you may already be done at that point).
One of the potential challenges in shifting the belief by clearing the original memories is that the person may be very emotionally shut down and defended against feeling the feelings associated with those memories. This can happen when we have a painful experience repeated many times, and we cope by blocking out the feelings for our survival. It’s intolerable to keep feeling the same pain over a long period of time. Unfortunately, this can make it hard to tune into the energy disturbance to clear the underlying pain through tapping.
In this situation an interesting method is to combine the Re-evaluation Co-counseling technique of positive contradiction with EFT to bring out the underlying pain. For instance, if the person has some kind of “I am bad” self-belief, one can positively contradict the negative self-belief by having the person say things that s/he likes about her/himself. For example:
“I really like that I am a caring person.”
The key here is to not just say the words but to say them with a joyful facial expression and tone of voice. The facial expression and tone of voice is more effective than the words for getting past our defense and through to our hearts. However, using a joyful facial expression and tone of voice can be challenging in this situation, so it can take several repetitions with repeated encouragements to say it ever more joyfully before the positive contradiction breaks through the emotional shutdown and the underlying painful feelings start to be released. Once this happens, you can go right into tapping with or without saying any words. You can then just go with the flow of whatever comes up, including specific feelings and memories. It’s easier to use this method with another person providing the caring support and encouragement, but it can also be done alone. You just have to keep reminding yourself to say the positive statement more and more joyfully each time until it works.
The positive contradiction method can be extremely helpful for getting at and healing the old pain associated with the negative self-beliefs. Once the negative self-beliefs are cleared, the positive energy can be received without facing an internal contradiction.
The Lack of Positive Experiences Growing Up
Another situation that can make it difficult to receive positive feelings from others is when we didn’t receive those kinds of positive feelings growing up. For instance, a person may not have experienced much, if any, praise or encouragement or love as a child. There would be, in that case, a well of pain around not receiving those things. If someone were to offer us praise or encouragement or love now, in order to take in the positive energy, our heart would have to open, which would get us in touch with that wellspring of pain. Again, we may find ourselves crying when offered praise, encouragement or love now. Like before, this can feel very uncomfortable, and we may block out the positive experience instead of feeling the old pain.
This can be worked with using EFT in a number of different ways. One method would be to tap on memories where the positive experience was painfully missing. These would be times, in the above example, where praise or encouragement or love was wanted but not received. If there are clear memories like that, this can be a fairly straightforward healing experience with tapping. You would just tap on those painful memories to clear them. It might then be helpful to use the Choices Method to give oneself the praise or encouragement or love that was originally wanted. For instance:
“Even though Mom/Dad didn’t praise me when I got good grades, I choose to take delight in my accomplishments now.”
(If you are not familiar with the Choices Method, search for that phrase on the national EFT web site to learn about this useful technique.)
The healing process becomes trickier when there are no clear memories of the painful lack of some positive emotion. Rather, the positive emotion was never there to even want. There was just the life-long lack. Since there are no specific memories to deal with, it can be harder to figure out what to tap on. You might try tapping on “even though I never received love,” for instance, but I have not found that to work too quickly. It’s worth trying (maybe combined with the Choices Method), but that approach tends to be slow going.
Instead, the positive contradiction method can again be used to get at the underlying wellspring of pain, which can then be tapped on directly. If praise was missing, then either give the person enthusiastic praise or have the person give themselves the praise. The second option usually works better. It’s important to keep repeating the praise ever more joyfully until the breakthrough happens and the feelings open up. You can then tap on the upsurge of feelings. This may also lead to tappable buried painful memories. Again, I would recommend using the Choices Method to help fill in what was missing growing up. Once this pain from not receiving the positive energy is sufficiently cleared, it will become much easier to receive it from others as well as oneself.
Fear of Being Vulnerable
Let’s discuss the most poignant example of not being able to take in love from another person. There are a couple of potential causes for this problem. One cause is a feeling of unworthiness of being loved or feeling unlovable. This actually falls in the negative self-belief category that we discussed before and can be treated accordingly.
Another very common cause for the difficulty in taking in love is a fear of being vulnerable. We learned about love relationships from our original primary relationship with our parents. If there was a significant amount of pain and/or insecurity in those relationships, it may feel dangerous to let someone close to us now. We may feel afraid of re-experiencing the same pain we had growing up. This might have included being abandoned or engulfed or abused or some other type of painful interaction with our parent(s).
In order to take in someone’s love, we have to open our hearts to that person, which gets us more in touch with our vulnerability and the possibility of being hurt again. Subconsciously, we feel safer keeping the other person at a distance. Unfortunately, the end result is not being able to fully receive the other person’s love.
The solution here is to use EFT to address the original painful memories of feeling abandoned or engulfed or other types of painful interactions. In addition, we can use the method of trying to take in someone’s love and tapping on the specific fears that come up. Once these painful early experiences and current fearful discomforts have been cleared, it will be much easier to fully take in love.
There are many possible causes for the difficulty in receiving positive feelings from others, and we have discussed some of the most common ones here. One of the common themes in all of these examples is that the presence of underlying pain makes it hard to receive the positive emotional energy because opening to receive the energy would bring out the pain. However, this same phenomenon can be used to facilitate the healing process. The very act of trying to take in positive feelings will bring out the old pain that needs healing. If the person really stretches to take in the positive feelings from another person or from him/herself, the pain will come to the surface and can be dealt with through tapping. Once this is done, the positive energy can be received without hindrance.
Alternatively, if original memories can be found that are the source of the pain, then they are the best things to tap on. Used in combination, very deep and thorough healing can be achieved.
Not being able to take in positive feelings from others is an unfortunate limitation, sadly applicable to most people to a greater or lesser degree. The blocks to receiving positive energy are, however, readily healable using EFT, leading to a richer, more nourishing and connected life.
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